After a year of leading through constant crisis, how are leaders supposed to cope?
Ian Morgan Cron and Carey catch up on how each Enneagram type reacts under stress and the difference between fake or strategic authenticity and true vulnerability.
Welcome to Episode 411 of the podcast. Listen and access the show notes below or search for the Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts and listen for free.
Plus, in this episode’s What I’m Thinking About segment, Carey talks about why he finds personality assessments so helpful as a leader.
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Conversation Links
Typology Podcast: How Hidden Beliefs Impact Toni and Carey Nieuwhof’s Marriage
Typology Podcast: Seven Core Challenges of Leadership, feat. Carey Nieuwhof (Enneagram 8)
Typology Podcast: Carey Nieuwhof on the Enneagram and Self-Leadership, part 2 (Enneagram 8)
The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile
Leading From Your Strengths Assessment
Intimacy with God by Thomas Keating
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Insights From Ian
1. Take care of your basic needs if you want to fight anxiety
As a corporate consultant and therapist, Ian often gets calls from leaders who are dealing with some pretty intense anxiety in the moment, and they want him to help them stop being so anxious.
His first question to them is often, “What did you eat for breakfast?” Usually, the answer is, “Nothing.” Then, he asks, “How much water have you drank today?” Followed by, “When was the last time you exercised?” And, “How much sleep have you gotten the last three nights?” Usually, they’re struggling with three or four of those things, so he tells them to fix those issues and call him back. Seven times out of 10, this fixes their issue.
2. When you’re stressed, avoid the trap of managing rather than leading
When many leaders get stressed, they fall into the trap of managing rather than leading. You probably have great managers working under you as a leader. Ian recommends you let them do their job, and that you focus on leading them with vision and direction rather than micromanaging.
3. Loneliness is killing leaders
During the interview, Ian makes a point to recommend every single leader ask themselves, “Am I lonely?” With today’s technology, people are becoming more isolated, and loneliness has become an epidemic. Odds are, you or someone you know are being seriously impacted by loneliness.
To fight loneliness, Ian recommends having more spontaneous visits with old friends, more FaceTime calls with relatives and putting yourself into more social situations than you might be comfortable with. It might be uncomfortable in the short-term, but will pay off in the long.
Quotes from Episode 411
Don't you know that when you try to be authentic, you're automatically being inauthentic? @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet Vulnerability is arguably the most important ingredient in forging great relationships. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet Embrace your powerlessness, and when you do that, you find power. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet Leaders can confuse vulnerability with weakness. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet When people panic, they stop leading. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet You want to have relationships? Start practicing vulnerability. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet Technology is set up to create addicts. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet We're facing loneliness. And loneliness has reached epidemic proportions. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet A lot of leaders live with the myth of invincibility. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet You've got to lead people the way they want to be led. Click To Tweet Self-awareness is spiritual awareness. Click To TweetRead or Download the Transcript for Episode 411
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